Are You Selfish? 1

Are you selfish?

Did you put on your oxygen mask.

Oxygen Mask

Are you selfish? Chances are pretty good that you are if you are reading this page. You see selfish people don’t give the best of themselves to others. They often say yes to demands on their time even when they don’t have time to do justice to the task. They often are only physically present with family and friends because they have worked too hard lately and are really tired. They are missing work or being less productive as they do not feel well. Does any of this resonate with you?

Did you put on your oxygen mask first?

You are probably familiar with the flight attendant’s script. “In the event of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you… If you are travelling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.” This is based on the principle that if you don’t take care of yourself first, and then you will be of no help to others. Take some time for you! It is very unselfish, or selfless, to take time for yourself. Otherwise, how will you be able to give your personal best to yourself and others? You would not expect your cell phone to operate without taking time to charge the battery would you?


Are you getting enough sleep?


Are you to busy to get at least 6 hours sleep and sleep can be passed up? Arianna Huffington, founder of The Huffington Post, calls sleep deprivation, “the root of all bad decisions.” Mistakes and accidents go up while health and productivity go down


Are you saying “no” often enough?


You have heard the old expression “Ask a busy person if you want to get something done.” Well that seems to be the mantra of many, especially those seeking volunteers.  If it is something that you truly feel is more than you can take on now without saying no to something of higher priority, then try saying no like this. “Thank you for considering me, but I simply do not have the time to do this well right now.” I have often found people thanking me for being so forthright and not taking on something that would be less than my personal best.


Are you having fun?


Whether it is taking time for a hobby or taking a mini trip on a long week or doing something you haven’t tried before you need fun. Without some fun (and I am not saying everything has to be fun) you lose creativity and productivity.


Are you taking care of your health?


Exercise and nutrition play a key element in living with less stress. I started following Dr. Fuhrman’s “flexitarian” diet in August. I am down 50 pounds and feel great with significantly more energy. Exercise and a healthy diet doesn’t cost time or energy, it makes time and energy. As well, it reduces stress. I was stressing significantly over this blog about an hour ago. I went for a2.5 km. walk and most of it was written in my head while walking. As a real bonus I also listened to a podcast on a subject I am studying.


Are you getting the support you need?


We all need to lean on someone once in a while. It may just be a good listener. It might be just a coffee with a friend to decompress. It might be with a health care professional or a coach. Would a nice long walk with your significant other or a friend serve the social, the support and the exercise needs all at once?


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